We all desire a relationship that brings us a deeper connection, good feelings, laughter and a sense of security. Many times, as we continue to grow in our love, there are a few simple things that we forget to do and give to one another. Those simple things consist of heartfelt conversations, avoiding stress, showing appreciation and acknowledging one another.
3 Tips to Increase the Emotional Connection in Your Relationship
Have Heartfelt Genuine Conversations
Regardless of the challenges that you may face in your relationship, there is always time to show genuine heartfelt compassion for your spouse or partner. Make a commitment to refuse to have self-centered conversations, but rather engaging conversations about the joys, wins, highs and lows that your spouse or partner may be willing to share. Keep in mind that everyone has a story, so without being judgmental simply engage with one another from a place of love. Here are a few questions to ask one another – “Is there an area of your life where I can be more supportive?” “What is your vision for this year?” “If there is one thing I could do daily to bring a smile to your face, what would it be?” Keep in mind that every solution to a problem or deeper connection in a relationship begins with a question.
Avoid Stress, Pressure and Manipulation
We carry a lot of our stress and the stress of those whom we love on our own backs and shoulders. Many times, in our relationships, whether intentional or unintentional, we place a lot stress and pressure on ourselves and the one’s we love. However, we want to encourage you to make a commitment to yourself to not take on too much or commit to something that you know you may not be able to follow through to completion. Even if you believe that you can do it, but know that it will cause added stress to your life; do not commit to do it. Love is about appreciation and sharing so do not allow your spouse or partner to manipulate your feelings or make you feel uncomfortable. Many people in a relationship feel the need to manipulate due to stress or pressure. We believe that this is due to a lack of transparency and honesty. Stress and pressure are your signs that you are doing something that requires assistance outside of yourself, or you are trying too hard to please someone else, or you are operating outside of your boundaries. Make a commitment to yourself to focus on avoiding stress, pressure and manipulation by being open and honest with one another. Remember, you are in a relationship, which means you have a partner and you are a team.
Show Appreciation and Acknowledge One Another
One of the most important ways to show your spouse or partner that you care and appreciate them is by simply letting them hear you say it and by showing them that you appreciate them. You will be surprised how a simple hug and acknowledging what your spouse or partner means to you can do to their heart. Remind your spouse or partner about some of the things they have said or done that meant a lot to you. Acknowledge how much value they add to your life and how much your life has benefited by having them as your partner.
Remember healthy marriages don’t happen by chance, they happen by choice!
Coaches Martez & Woodrina